Striking out physically, mentally and emotionally no longer tolerable.
Years spent trying to maintain a relationship; trying to maintain a sense of family. Enough!
A day is coming. My voice cannot be silenced. I will not be manipulated, controlled as my alcoholic father did for so long.
His actions took him down physically, finally, and my youth hoped against hope there would be change he would choose ... he never did.
A life of projecting his internal pain outward was one I would never imitate, never accept and never allow to be done.
A day is coming. My voice cannot be silenced. I will not be manipulated, controlled as my alcoholic father did for so long.
His actions took him down physically, finally, and my youth hoped against hope there would be change he would choose ... he never did.
A life of projecting his internal pain outward was one I would never imitate, never accept and never allow to be done.
Is there a characteristic, a genetic tendency to take risks and to be abusive?
Abuse takes many forms and often the abuser will not accept their actions as harming another emotionally, mentally or physically but instead sees their words and actions as "justified".
Abuse is consistent, pain and punishment replacing rights, beliefs, abilities, possessions.
The Abuser needs control and the person abused often will not Surrender willingly.
Abuse takes many forms and often the abuser will not accept their actions as harming another emotionally, mentally or physically but instead sees their words and actions as "justified".
Abuse is consistent, pain and punishment replacing rights, beliefs, abilities, possessions.
The Abuser needs control and the person abused often will not Surrender willingly.
Silent or Interactive Abusers stimulate the actions and words of others and often are physically and emotionally involved.
Abuse that is supported is destructive of the self and the abuser, it is a cancer in the fabric of life, expanding, subsiding for times, focused inward, closing off the light.
The abuser must find a "target" to move their life problems and challenges onward, incapable of resolving life's challenges.
The abuser uses what feels the most valuable as a target. Grown children often use contact with grandchildren to hurt/harm/punish their parent(s); find ways to negate any action present or past and distort it to conform to their need to punish.
Abusers often transfer a current or recent experience with someone other than their "target" and couple it with blame and assignment of ownership away from the actual perpetrator, past, current, ongoing or historical.
Following in a previous generation's footsteps -- is it hereditary or is it a choice that's individually made?
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