Tuesday, April 8, 2025

Back Of The Line

You served your purpose.                                                                                               Then the time comes when the kids step in.                           

They get out the old pictures.                                                                                             Of their Gram or Gramps.                                             

Living in a Nursing Home.                                                                                             Used as a reference point.

Life Moves Forward.                                                                                                       A spouse, a parent, another focus in life.                                     

I remember it well.                                                                                                           All those times we put "you" first.

You expanded your life reach.                                                                                       You find less time to connect or contact.                                                   

We taught you well.                                                                                                         To take care of your self.              

You've added many responsibilities.                                                                             We are just one more on your to do list. 

You live far away; you have kids of your own.                                                               You work and need play. 

Seldom including me/us is your way.                                                                              After all, it's just another day.

Separating your life from mine.                                                                                       There's just never enough time!                                                                  

Your kids want to go to college.                                                                                     You like to take family vaca's.                                                                                           Have work responsibilities.

Supporting kids holding out open hands.                                                                         They're not there to help.                                                                                                 They have their own plans.

We've been there, done that,                                                                                     looking forward to the day                                                                                           when we would be FREE.                                           

Cost of living keeps rising.                                                                                     Capabilities cease.

You spread your wings we gave you to fly.                                                                     Then we heard you whine and cry.

The "kids" need this became the "kids" want that.                                                             Now you see our "savings" as your "investment'.

We provided you the ways and the means.                                                             You lived a life higher than we ever dreamed.                           

We now need your help.                                                                                                    Will you go or will you stay?                                                                                           Or do you live . . . Way Too Far Away?                                             

Saturday, April 5, 2025

LTC Practices Endanger Residents

Truth be told, I've not been visiting Carol
like I did for many months. 
It brings back memories of when my mom 
was in the same facility. 
The lies. The half truths. 

Watching Carol die a little more each day 
not because she's that sick but because 
what is NOT being done for her  
taking her life an inch at a time.

Reported to DHSS about the overmedication 
of anti psychotics including possibility 
some meds caused Carol's hands 
first to tremor and then a couple of months ago 
to "freeze" into not clenched fists but "frozen".
In claw like shapes not able to use her hands.

Facility was given a "slap on the wrist". 


She can't feed herself.
She's "offered food" but often cannot talk.


The food is pureed -- looks like something 
that comes out of you instead of goes into you 
and imagine the taste is almost as bad.

Carol refuses the food. 
The LTC sees this as "the end".
It's been going on for a very long time.
The only thing that keeps her alive 
is the weight she had that will soon be gone.

She doesn't refuse what we bring to her. 
She's starving. 

They claim it's typica:l "Last Stages of Life". 
They don't take the time and they don't care. 

The Facility convinced her to go into Hospice 
If she doesn't want to go to the hospital. 
That was the only decision she could make.

Carol has no Advocate.
No family member.
.
She's lived in an LTC for many years.
Her "value" is decreasing.
She's had multiple medical incidents.

Department of Health & Senior Services?
Elder Abuse Hotline?
They say their hands are tied.
 
A Dr has prescribed the medications.
One Rep of the DHSS told me.
'"If a Dr prescribes medication--
it's because it's needed." is the Mantra.

Right! A Staff Doctor who increases 
their "payroll" based on "services rendered"
including simply reviewing a "stack of updates"
all designed to portray a caring environment.
OFTEN FAR FROM TRUE. 

Meds are used in LTC's to control and restrain.
Dr's are "hired" and "paid by" the LTC's.
Loved ones and others never really know what's given 
unless they have a POA for Medical Care.

Suggest that person look at the latest Stats 
for LTC's, Medical Professionals abuse of drugs 
both personally, professionally and through prescriptions.

From an AARP article: 

"Nearly four of every five prescriptions are written 
by primary care doctors and specialists 
untrained in psychiatry 
who are dispensing powerful drugs 
that may have either no impact or harmful effects."

How would you like to be "used" 
when you're no longer a profit center 
because you need more daily care for toileting etc.?

Remember how they convinced Carol? 
They knew she didn't want to go to the hospital.

It's challenging to find information online 
about this "practice" because older people 
are "expected" to die and so when they do -- 
well, that's just what happens. 

Is it? Or is it more profitable in the short term
for the increased costs, less care 
and then when the bed "vacates" 
another ability to fill it 
with someone who needs less care.

The following is from a publication of the 
California Advocates For Nursing Home Reform:

http://www.canhr.org/publications/newsletters/
NetNews/Feature_Article/NN_2014Q3.htm

"In my experience when a patient is certified 
for hospice, the hospice provider routinely orders 
rental of an expensive hospital bed and various 
expensive breathing apparatuses whether the patient 
needs it or not, and bills accordingly. 

"Once the patient’s hospice category is set, 
and the reimbursement set accordingly, 
of course profit goes up if that care 
can be provided by fewer personnel 
or in less time, just like in a nursing home 
and other businesses, and the least able 
and most vulnerable among us 
can be treated accordingly."

"A second important reason for long times 
on hospice for people who are not on 
the verge of dying is that they are 
very good business for hospice providers." 

See, e.g., “Medicare Rules Create 
a Booming Business in Hospice Care 
for People Who Aren’t Dying,”
Washington Post, Dec. 26, 2013.

You think the above are all "old" articles.
Think again. Reduction of support for Elders.
Taking away their remaining quality of life.

More prominent now than ever before.
Reduced financial support from the States.
Fewer Ombudsmen and more facilities.

Is this what you want for your loved ones?
Conditions some animals face and also do not deserve?

Tuesday, April 1, 2025

Blinders All In Place

When you look around, what do you see?                                                                    I see you. Do you see me?

You see us as "privileged" with big houses you want.                                       We're "old" and we're "fragile"? 

 If you only knew . . . the truth is . . .                                                                             The challenges we faced are anything but new!                                

This home has memories, I know how to use the space.                                         We don't really care where -- it's all a "human race".

You "tried on" our shoes when you were small.                                                            Now your demands make you stand not quite so tall. 

Remember what we told you to someday recall?                                                       "The bigger they are, the harder they fall."

You're in a line you fail to see.                                                                                           Soon you will be "just like me".

Days turn into years.                                                                                                       Kids arrive and soon depart.                                                                                               You'll know what it means to have "a heart".

We dreamed your dream, we worked to gain.                                                             Now you're out to take and claim.                                                                                   You can't repair or begin to replace.

I stood in lines to be turned away.                                                                      Never knowing if I'd have enough food or gas day to day.                            

Pumps closed down, reached quota, turned away.                                                 Return when odd numbers allow us  to try another day.

You think you're the first to see quotas and limits?                                                       Think again my young friends, this is just the beginning.                                    Repeat Performance as we spin in space.

Simply trying to live "The American Dream".                                                                     Why are nightmares all we have seen?

Food Share lines continue to grow.                                                                                 We "checked out" and chose a few months ago.

Today we're told, one only, please, the line is long.                                                           We take a share and try to be strong.

World Wars and catastrophes bring these needs.                                                       Why is it a common and repeating scene?